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A Valentine for Our Friends

Sunday, February 10, 2019

A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.   ~William Shakespeare

The Four Loves  ~CS Lewis

Those who cannot conceive friendship as a substantive love, but only as a disguise or elaboration of Eros, betray the fact that they may have never had a friend. The rest of us know that, though we can have erotic love and friendship for the same person, in some ways nothing is less like a friendship than a love-affair.

Lovers are always talking to one another about their love; friends hardly ever about their friendship. Lovers are normally face to face, absorbed in each other; friends, side by side, absorbed in some common interest.

Above all, Eros, while it lasts, seems to necessarily be between two only. But two, far from being the necessary number for friendship, is not even the best. The reason for this is important. In each of my friends, there is talent that only another friend can fully bring out. By myself, I am not large enough to call the whole into activity; I want other lights than my own to show all of their facets.

Hence true friendship is the least jealous of loves. Two friends delight to be joined by a third, and three by a fourth, if only the newcomer is qualified to become a real friend. They can then say, as the blessed souls say in Dante, 'Here comes one who will augment our loves'. For in this love, to divide is not to take away.

Happy Valentine's Day to friends, family, colleagues and customers who continually raise us up to be more than we can be.

Ellen Troyer with Spencer Thornton, MD, David Amess and the Biosyntrx staff

C.S. Lewis, an Oxford University Fellow and Chair of Medieval and Renaissance Literature at Cambridge University, was one of the most influential writers of his day. His Chronicle's of Narnia high fantasy novels have been in continuous publication since 1956, selling over 100 million copies in 47 languages. They are considered children's literature classics. He published more than 30 other books.